Few days ago on my long drive to work,I was listening to one of the many shows on the radio which ask you to call in with your opinion. Generally,I enjoy being a passive listener to people's views and the RJ's very prepared arguments!Somehow that day's debate got my attention. It was about a statement made by Vice-Chief of Air Staff, Air Marshal P K Barbora about considering women as fighter pilots as a bad investment. It was interesting to hear most women agree with the statement due to practical problems and on the contrary a few men saying that it wasn't a valid statement.Personally,I felt it was like limiting a person's choice due to their gender.Why do we assume that all women would get married and want to have a kid within a few years? Infact I felt that women who would go in for such a career knew what they were getting into! My only contention is that such a judgemental and generalist stand could hamper the future of a passionate young girl somewhere...The focus is so much on how the woman has to take care of her baby and cant pursue a tough career etc etc but not ALL of us choose that path! All of us have our own limits...one woman wants to be a teacher,one would go ahead and choose a deskjob,one a sales job and probably another one would go to godforsaken villages for her passion!!Every person has the freedom of following their passion..definitely there would be lesser women in some fields,but for the few who want to make it at any cost,this kind of a statement seems discouraging and clearly discriminatory.

Our first house

After months of looking for that perfect place in Gurgaon,we finally found what ALMOST fit the bill (literally). Along the way,we both found ourselves adjusting to reality-budgets guided most part of our decisions,followed by convenient location and safety. Several times we walked into an apartment and thought that we had found THE one,but unfortunately these didnt fare well on our list of "must haves"...We found ourselves discussing and rediscussing the same issues again and again..should we go with our dream or should we go with the practical..should we look for a bigger place or should we look for a better location..after hours of brainstorming,we would even come to -should we move at all,hehehe! Yesterday,I found our perfect analogy ironically in our own new house - 2 young pigeons,with tiny wings who sit outside our bedroom window...young,scared,maybe ready to fly...that was just like us :)
A new phase has begun..I find myself scared of the change sometimes-will I be able to cook,will I be able to manage the house help,would it be too lonely without family... Guess change always has that effect-tests your nerves...